When you restrict a child's food, their brain learns: food is scarce. Must get more before it's gone.
When you control their portions, they learn: I can't trust my own body.
When you ban sweets, they become obsessed. They binge in secret. They eat until they're sick when they finally get access.
When you comment on their eating, they learn: something is wrong with me. I should be ashamed.
The more you restrict, the more they want it.
The more you control, the more they lose control when you're not watching.
The more you shame, the more they eat to comfort themselves from the shame.
This is how eating disorders start.
This is how a child who was a little overweight becomes an adult who still can't eat normally at 35.
You weren't helping. You were making it worse.
Not because you're a bad mother. Because no one told you.